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Wednesday, August 20, 2008 @ 8/20/2008 12:23:00 AM
coping can have 2 forms
emotion focused coping n problem focused coping.
problem focused coping is used when one has control and the means to overcome the problem or situation at hand..
emotion focused coping.. when one can't do anything but endure..
so what happens if your brain tells you there's no problem (hence no need for coping)..
but you FEEL otherwise?
since there's no problem.. then one can only rely on emotion focused coping?
rarr.. gotta get this off my mind..
need to psycho myself..
emotion focused coping n problem focused coping.
problem focused coping is used when one has control and the means to overcome the problem or situation at hand..
emotion focused coping.. when one can't do anything but endure..
so what happens if your brain tells you there's no problem (hence no need for coping)..
but you FEEL otherwise?
since there's no problem.. then one can only rely on emotion focused coping?
rarr.. gotta get this off my mind..
need to psycho myself..
Wednesday, August 06, 2008 @ 8/06/2008 09:02:00 AM
the same thing has been revolving in my mind these few days.
tried putting myself into someone else's shoes. but its impossible to imagine how its like.
and.. me being me.. cannot simply ignore another's feelings..
and so... the curiousity grew and grew.. the question of "so what happened?" loomed at the back of my mind..
and then last nite..
idle chat on light hearted topics linked with deeper issues made me think about all these from a different perspective..
MY perspective..
it may sound self-centered..
but it is juz about protecting and cherishing what we have..
why be burdened by e actions of others?
i think it will be better to show them how things could be and should be..
and with that thought..
i let go of my curiousity and fear..
ready to once again embrace what i have..
=)
but maybe..
someday i'll ask the "so what happened?" question..
but for now.. other things are more important than that..
tried putting myself into someone else's shoes. but its impossible to imagine how its like.
and.. me being me.. cannot simply ignore another's feelings..
and so... the curiousity grew and grew.. the question of "so what happened?" loomed at the back of my mind..
and then last nite..
idle chat on light hearted topics linked with deeper issues made me think about all these from a different perspective..
MY perspective..
it may sound self-centered..
but it is juz about protecting and cherishing what we have..
why be burdened by e actions of others?
i think it will be better to show them how things could be and should be..
and with that thought..
i let go of my curiousity and fear..
ready to once again embrace what i have..
=)
but maybe..
someday i'll ask the "so what happened?" question..
but for now.. other things are more important than that..